High emotional effort is necessary to overcome social anxiety and the fear of rejection. Significant discipline is required to maintain a health-focused lifestyle and a consistent social schedule.
This strategy utilizes Carol Dweck's Growth Mindset by treating social skills and attractiveness as developable traits rather than fixed assets. It incorporates Stoic principles by teaching the individual to focus on their own character and actions—the things within their control—rather than the external validation of others. Additionally, it draws from Brené Brown's research on vulnerability, suggesting that true connection requires the courage to be seen as one truly is, which fosters deeper emotional intimacy.
Models: Attract Women Through Honesty by Mark Manson, Attached by Amir Levine for relationship science, and Daring Greatly by Brené Brown.